Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Lauren's Love Story


















Four Generations:
Lauren's Grandmother with Eli, Lauren, and Lauren's Aunt


Twenty Three years ago, God blessed my husband and his first wife, Roberta with their second daughter. Their journey to parenthood began with difficulty and ended with two beautiful blessings. Lauren, their second blessing was born to young teenage parents. Their love enabled them to trust Doug and Roberta (Lauren's adoptive parents) with her care. At age 14, Lauren's adoptive mother died and Dad continued his journey raising both girls. In 2005, Doug and I (Andrea) married, blending families. Our greatest blessing came instantly as our children grew close with hearts full of love for one another.

I, as step-mom gave birth to Lauren as a teenager. I carefully and sometimes painfully tried to be step-mom, yet not "mom." Her Dad and I share the desire for her adoptive mother, who raised her from birth to 14 to be present in spirit. Roberta's love brought Lauren home from the hospital and raised her under the divine guidance of her Heavenly Father. Daily, I seek to keep those values at the forefront with each of our children. On July 27th, I was privileged to stand in her mother's place as she gave birth to our beautiful grandson, Eli. Lauren will never be able to give me a greater gift.

On Monday, Doug and I met Lauren's Grandmother (adoptive mother/Roberta's mother) and her Aunt (adoptive mother's sister) and led them to Lauren's home to meet Eli. Once again, Doug and I were blessed to watch as GOD poured HIMSELF out through each of them. GOD's love is evident in each of their eyes and beautiful smiles in the photo above.

Lauren is loved by many! Biology does not make a family, God's love does! For those of you struggling with blended families or adopted children, where God's love abounds a beautiful end is in sight. Look to His light and He will lead you through the difficult and painful moments filling you with His peace that passes all understanding.

Blessed to be step-mom,

Andrea

67 comments:

Denise said...

Amen, such a heart touching post. Blessings to your precious family.

Buttercup said...

Dear Andrea, what a beautiful post and I know it comes from a beautiful heart. Blessings to you and Doug, Lauren and all of your family. I feel very grateful to know your lovely family.

Debra Kaye said...

Amen, Andrea! Touched my heart. Blessings to you!!

Cathy said...

Aw, love the pretty picture ~ Thanks for sharing with us, Dear.

Erin said...

Beautiful post, Andrea. As an adult child of multiple divorces, I can say my life would have been much easier if the various parties involved had been as gracious and caring as you. I know you think you're lucky to have been blessed with Lauren, but I can say from experience that she, too, was lucky t have been blessed with you.

COUNTRY MOM said...

Amen Andrea, Beautiful post and beautiful family. You are a blessing.

Warren Baldwin said...

Andrea, this is a great story. You have done as good a job as I have ever seen with a blended family. I know there are a number of factors involved, but one of them is your great heart. Have you ever thought of writing a book on blended families? It really is a necessary topic for today. You could address the subject very ably.

Also, does Lauren have a blog? She would have some great stories to share.

wb

Ozjane said...

Lovely story.
I was a step Mom for 3 years....they had been in my ex Dh"s custody for 14 years before we met and chose to go home to their Mum a year before we married...when my ex left due to a mental breakdown (impending at that time) the children clung to me...they were 19 yrs of age down...the older one was not so close but the youngest son still sometimes rings me from USA where he now lives. My ex left in '82, so am not quite sure what I am...maybe an ex step mum. Son has more to do with me than he does with his Dad which is dad and our contact is every few years.

Aliene said...

Andrea, A loving story! But tragically not all stories end that way. Lovely picture and a precious baby. You have a heart full of love.
blessings on your lives together as a family.

Lynda Young said...

"Biology does not make a family, God's love does!" Oh this is so very true!

Blessings to you,
Lyn

sarah said...

what a beautiful interweaving of lives. And I like what Lynda says God's love not biology makes a family.

Diane said...

What a beautiful story and a happy continuation of God's love! :O)

Karen said...

Such a beautiful, beautiful, story! Your wording brought tears to my eyes at the thought of how God orchestrated bringing you all together...He is so good!

The picture is wonderful...and yes...you can see the love in their eyes....

Runner Mom said...

I love this beautiful story! And God's perfect love. The picture is precious!! Andrea, y'all have been quite busy!! Thank you for your prayers for Kristi! Enjoy your day!
Hugs!
Susan

chili pepper said...

Andrea,

This is a beautiful story that only the Lord can right. As one who has been affected by divorce, remarriage, step families and all that goes along with it since I was young, I can tell you that many lives would be different if others would take the lead of all those involved in Lauren's love story. Thanks for taking the time to share with us.

I've missed seeing you around but having not been up to visiting lately. I am trying to get back into the swing of things day by day and step by step. Thank you for your prayers through this time.

Hugs,

Kat

Rachel said...

So beautiful, Andrea. Really an amazing post. I was blessed reading it.

May God bless your family. And thank you for blessing me with your words.

Rachel

BLUEBUTTERFLY said...

Thanks for posting, Andrea. As someone who was raised by women who showed me amazing love, I can attest that biology has nothing to do with what makes anyone a good and loving parent.

Blessings.

Divine Mrs D said...

Absolutely beautiful!! Thank you so much for posting. I hope that you're doing well :)

Linda said...

Such beautiful women Andrea. Our daughter is adopted, and she is the joy of our hearts. This is a wonderful tribute to love.

lisasmith said...

Crazy here too!! But, storming the heavens has solidified you as my prayer partner whether we are "talking" or not!

This blended family post makes me cry. Big, happy, tears!!

vanilla said...

Family is a beautiful thing; and as you indicate, it is determined by love rather than biology.

myletterstoemily said...

you sound like a wonderful stepmom!
it was difficult navigating the teenage
years, and i imagine very tricky as a
stepmom.

she is very blessed to have you!

Cathy Bryant said...

Andrea, thanks for sharing such a beautiful story. How true that biology doesn't make a family. Only God's love can bring it about. Thanks for being a willing light of testimony to God's goodness in difficult circumstances.

Jackie said...

Beautiful!!!

Nancy said...

What a beautiful story of the different generations and God's love. Eli is so sweet. Love that name.

Tea with Tiffany said...

Such encouragement and hope for someone in a similar situation. Thank you for sharing your story and God's love for all families, no matter what the design.

Holly said...

Andrea,

I LOVE IT!
Biology does not make a family, God's love does!

So true!

Enjoyed this story and what a blessing!

Hugs,

Holly

~*~ saskia ~*~ said...

Have a wonderful Wednesday, Andrea. xx

Together We Save said...

She is very blessed and you are such a blessing to her by accepting all of her family.

Saleslady371 said...

This is such a tender story. It gave me big tears to see what God does with hearts that live for Him. I love Him, and you, so much.

Kristy K said...

What a beautiful post Andrea!!! It's amazing how God knits all these people into our lives and creates and grows our families.

Andrea said...

What a beautiful story, Andrea! I have tears in my eyes. Congratulations on your grandbaby! Many blessings to all of you!

Jeanette Levellie said...

Wow. What a journey. You are Blessed indeed, Andrea. I'd say so are Doug and his girls, to have you.

LOve
Jen

Diana said...

Our family has blended beautifully! I always thank God for that. The photo was just beautiful Andrea. I can see the love. Bless you all!
Love Di ♥

Sonja said...

What a beautiful story to end this day with Andrea... this is truly God's story in all of your lives. How blessed each one of you are, to share the family that He has created!

Hugs!

~ Being Woven said...

Amen! Such blessings coming from so many directions. God's love truly is evident in the faces of these women and in your words, Andrea, relating this beautiful story to us.
Thanking you with love, ~ linda

Jennifer @ Getting Down With Jesus said...

This, right here:

"Biology does not make a family, God's love does!"

We don't have to share DNA to be linked by the true Father.

May the Abba Father -- our everlasting Dad -- bless you all!

Nicole said...

What a beautiful post! You are so right about blended families. Sometimes you really can't tell because everybody starts to physically look alike anyway! Congrats on baby Eli.

Nezzy said...

Just goes to show ya that real family is grown and not always birthed. What a wonderful picture. God always knows what he's doin'. That little Eli is just precious, you are blessed my friend! :o)

Enjoy your day sweetie!!!

renewd42 said...

Its neat how God "weaves" our lives! I too am a step mom and we are expecting a grandbaby from my hubbys daughter in November...so the generations are a neat thing! Gods blessing carries on!! Blessings to you and your family! thanks for sharing!! and for dropping by my blog as well!!

Grandma Yellow Hair said...

Andrea what a blessing you are as a mom and a friend. I wish there were more step moms around the world like you.
This is a beautiful post and so enjoyed reading about your family.
My post are so crazy I am always think oh no Andrea going to be reading this but you still love me so see what a blessing you are to all of us
Love
Maggie

Laura said...

Such a beautiful story, Andrea, and so so true. The love you express here is so moving. Thank you for showing me this piece of God in you.

The French Bear said...

Andrea, you are a wonderful "Mom" and such a great disciple of God......I just love how this story of life has played on for you!!!
Hugs and thank you for keeping me in your prayers.
Margaret B

Claudia said...

oh i love that picture with 4 generations sitting on a couch - generation 1 has generation 4 in her arms - that's moving!!

He & Me + 3 said...

So true it is about the love of God. Beautiful story.

Becky K. said...

A very precious post, Andrea.

Becky K.

Lou said...

What a beautiful post Andrea. Blessed to have read this today.

Thank you for visiting Saved by Grace and the encouraging comment. I look forward to reading more of your blog. :)

Lou

Cathy said...

Beautiful story!

Debra Kaye said...

Thank you, Andrea, for your prayers for my son. I appreciate it more than I can say. God bless you.

emmage said...

I'm 1000% with you on this that biology doesn't make family aside of God. Its a privileged position to be a child of God.Good reflections.

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koralee said...

Such a lovely post...sending you blessings for a great weekend. xoxox

LisaShaw said...

Amen! What a beautiful message of LOVE Andrea!!!

Precious photo!!!

So true that biology doesn't make a family but God's love does! I love that!

Praying for you and your beautiful family loved by GOD!!!

Karen said...

This truly is a love story! Blessings to you and your family.

Terry said...

Howdy Andrea
Amen to God's love story.
I think I need two boxes of kleenex as I try to see clear enough to thank you for sharing this amazing miracle .
Congratulations to you all !
May God continue to pour out His great love upon you and yours that the Love of God may touch many more who are in need of His healing touch .
God bless you dear lady .
I have missed being able to visit .
Just know I think of you and continue to pray for you often .
Big Hugs from Texas
Until next time
Happy Trails

Mocha Momma said...

What a beautiful story of God's love spreading through a family far & wide.

How neat thet they all got to be together and that you were a part of that.

Libbie said...

What a beautiful girl! I just love how much love there is in this post! I can hear it oooozing out Andrea! That is a really fun picture. That is so awesome you desired to keep her mom's spirit alive in her life. What a gift!

Libbie said...

What a beautiful girl! I just love how much love there is in this post! I can hear it oooozing out Andrea! That is a really fun picture. That is so awesome you desired to keep her mom's spirit alive in her life. What a gift!

Pet said...

How beautiful!

Jenniflower said...

What a gracious and caring post Andrea! As someone who, along with hubby, will be adopting children.. this really touched me

Jen x

Barbara said...

Beautiful post....I so understand being a stepmom myself...giving birth to a 9 and 11 year old who have now given me those precious gifts...my grandchildren. It is about the love God places in each heart...that is the blood line that makes us family. Thanks for sharing this wonderful story.

Julie Gillies said...

What a beautiful family, Andrea! Lauren is just beautiful and Eli is adorable!

You're right--"Biology does not make a family, God's love does!"

May He continue to pour His love into your family...into all of our families.

Blessings to you...and Congrats!

Rebecca said...

This post was such an encouragement to me as two of our children are/or will soon be parents to 3 adopted children!

The "body language" on the picture is beautiful...and your gracious words complete the story.

God bless Lauren & her precious young family. And you and Doug, too :)

Goose Hill Farm said...

Andrea~

You always touch my heart with your words.

Beautiful post, my friend!

Blessings~
Laura

Just Breathe said...

What a beautiful post. God Bless.

quietspirit said...

Andrea:
What a beautiful tribute to Lauren's adoptive mother and her family. I am aware that not all families formed like yours are as blessed.

Nel said...

What a wonderful post! Wonderful picture... making memories.
until next time... nel