Wednesday, September 2, 2009


"Remember that my life is but breath, My eye will not again see good." Job 7:7

Job attempted to reconcile in his own mind what was happening to him.

"I will not restrain my mouth; I will speak in the anguish of my spirit, I will complain in the bitterness of my soul." Job 7:11

Job totally surrendered his pains and struggles to his Heavenly Father.

Often, we complain to others or stomp around in our own disgust accomplishing absolutely nothing. How do I know this?

Last night my computer crashed after a few other related complications earlier in the week.

As many of you know, my daughter (step-daughter) is getting married. I am expected to do it "all" and there have been comments that make me feel as though she would rather me not be present. She tells me what she wants and leaves. So far, I have done everything with the help of some of my best friends.

Do not misunderstand, I do not mind the labor or getting everything done. I did not mind writing and mailing all the invitations, meeting with caterers, or spending my evening making bouquets from silk flowers. Because of her attitude, I am hurt. Now I have said it!

I love this child and my hearts desire is for GOD to grow her into the person HE created her to be. I came to these scriptures after a day of grumbling. I have been an unhappy camper all day.

God understands my unhappiness and hurt. He wants to hear my anguish. I must surrender "everything" and leave it at HIS feet.

Storming the heavens,



Karen said...

Amen on surrendering everything...hope you have a better day tomorrow and your DSD's eyes are opened to your love and your caring nature....

Mari said...

I love that picture! It goes well with the post. Surrendering is so hard, but so rewarding. Praying your DSD starts to see the big picture!

Andrea said...

Thanks, Mari and Karen:

God has a wonderful sense of humor. I have jury duty tomorrow. I am sure I will come away thanking GOD for the problems I have and not wanting to trade with others.

Each of you who post on this blog will never know what your support and encouragement means to me.

In HIS grip, andrea

Marsha said...

Praying for you... patience and perseverance.


Andrea, I do the same thing. I surrender everything to God. I feel at peace when I read my Bible and say a prayer. I will be thinking of you and hope that she will understand all the love you are putting into her wedding, Not just the work. The Caring and Love. Blessings,

Saleslady371 said...

Weddings are tense. Never underestimate the role of the mother (or stepmother) of the bride. Coming alongside you, Andrea, and praying for that deep surrender. May God fill you with His peace and may you sleep well tonight.

Silver said...

Well said. :)


Frau said...

I think it's good to get it out. It's a stressful time for both of you. Some understanding on her part would be nice. Hang in there.

RCUBEs said...

Praying with you sister and may God give you the strength that you need. May God change your SD's heart to become more receptive and appreciative of your love. God bless.

Kelly Combs said...

Praying you & your step-daughter can work out these growing pains, and celebrate her big day in happiness.

Courtney said...

I'm sorry that you have been struggling lately. I hope that your stepdaughter soon sees just how much you have been putting into her wedding and her happiness, and that your relationship becomes even stronger!

sarah said...

that is a really hard situation. I am praying for you. Sarah

Chester said...

It is understandable that you are hurt by her attitude. We are human, after all. But we can also be thankful we have a God that understands and has lived with rejection also. We can look to Him always for comfort.

*This isn't in the Bible but, I think a little "venting" is good for the soul!

Bless you for your honesty!
Chester's Mom ;0=)

Loriann said...

We are praying for you daily.
Much Love and Prayers, Lori

Heart2Heart said...


Asking God for sweet prayers during this stressful time for both of you. I am sure once it is all over, it will be memorable and perfect and the relationship will be so much better.

Love and Hugs ~ Kat

Martha said...

We all endure trials to test our faith (and PATIENCE *winks*), I truly hope you have your much-earned rest and peace <3

Lora said...

I'm so sorry for your hurts and trials. Storming the heavens with you.

Tea With Tiffany said...

God sees your service. I pray He will bless your relationship as you continue to help where needed. And surrendering is hard but oh so necessary. Your prayers for her are heard. We can trust God is working even when we cannot see change.


christy rose said...

I completely understand the hurt feelings. Some times kids think we as parents do not have feelings at all. I love the thoughts at the beginning of this post about us trying to reconcile and figure things out in our own mind. What did that get him? But in surrendering to God being God and He was not, allowed God to bring the complete restoration in his life. When I remember this, I rest in peace knowing that my children's hearts are in His hands and He will woo it in His direction with His love. I will enjoy my children all of my days. :)
I am lifting you up in prayer today,

chili pepper said...

Perhaps not for a long time, maybe not until heaven, but you will be rewarded for your servant's heart and attitude toward your step daughter. One day she will be a mom and look back to realize all that you have done.

Praying for you,


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